The Concept of Love within the Marriage - Part 2

In our Newsletter we discussed the true meaning of the words "I love you," and stated that:

"We cannot claim that we love our spouses, and then treat them in an unkind or disrespectful manner. This type of behavior is not a sign of love."

In other words, we show with our actions what we really mean with our words.  When words and actions do not co-relate, we tend to believe actions over words.  Our lips may be saying something, but if our actions do not support what we say, then we're merely paying lip service...they are empty words.

We also discussed the pattern of hurtful behavior towards our spouses, and the dangers it brings to a marriage.  

We said:

"We cannot claim that we love another human being and then consciously continue to repeat disrespectful or hurtful behavior towards them. If we claim to truly love our spouse, then we must make the commitment to do our best to honor and respect them at all times; there should simply be no room for intentional harmful behavior, much less for repeated offenses."

And we stated that:

"It is imperative for both spouses to place the other's needs ahead of their own. If each of them does this, how can either of them suffer or feel left out or unappreciated?"

We concluded by stating that true love in a marriage doesn't just happen, but that it is something that needs to be cultivated, and can only be attained through effort, dedication, and commitment on the part of the spouses.
We sincerely hope that this article was beneficial to you, insha-Allah.  May Allah (SWT) guide you both towards taking the steps necessary to nurture true love in your marriage.


Share your thoughts with us!

Tell us what you think of the information we shared with you.  How does it relate to you and your marriage?  Was it useful to you? Did you learn anything new?  What do you agree with?  What do you disagree with?  Is there anything you'd like to add from your personal experience?

Feel free to post your comments.  Others might benefit from your insights, insha-Allah! 

Jazzak Allah Khair.

TMB Team

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The Concept of Love within the Marriage

	Assalamu 'Alaikum,  In our Newsletter we have discussed the concept of Love as it pertains to the marriage.  We discussed that true love differs from infatuation in that: It is not a given; it must be earned It's not based merely on physical appearances or personalities; rather, it's based on true character, and It can, and must, be cultivated in order to keep it alive and vibrant. We stated that:  "True love is acquired as a result of a deep level of awe, admiration and respect for another human being, for their values, their behavior, their morals, their integrity, etc."  And that: "In the marriage context, true love in a nutshell it's a commitment to place the other person above ourselves."  We also shared with you some factors that hinder true love, and gave you some ideas on how to cultivate it. Share your thoughts! Tell us what you think of the information we shared with you.  How does it relate to you and your marriage?  Was it useful to you? Did you learn anything new?  What do you agree with?  What do you disagree with?  Is there anything you'd like to add from your personal experience? Feel free to post your comments.  Others might benefit from your insights, insha-Allah!  Jazzak Allah Khair. TMB Team Note: If you have not signed up for our free newsletter, you may do so now by clicking here: The Muslim Bedroom Newsletter